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The holidays are filled with family, food, and prayers for the people in Poland. They celebrate the birth of Jesus Christ with pride and honor. Throughout the three full days of food, you embrace the warmth of your family that is here with you. The first day is about honoring the birth of Jesus while eating 12 dishes of fish. There is no meat or alcohol served on this holy day. The second day is based around meat, chicken, alcohol, and relaxing with your family. The third day is a wrap up of being with your family while pigging out at the table. There are many dishes and tons of different food each day.
I got the honor and privilege to spend this holy holiday with my host family. On the first day my Uncle Piotrek even added a prayer in English “Thank you Stephanie for celebrating Christmas with us. We are happy to have you here with us.” Everyone’s mouth dropped open, my uncle was blushing, and I was grinning from ear to ear. Uncle Piotrek doesn’t speak English and only knows little too few words so to have him say that was an honor. After prayers we got a holy “cracker” that you hold and go around to your family members. You wish each other good wishes for the next year to come like; “I hope you pass your Matura, Ania,” and “I hope your life is filled with nothing but happiness, Monika,” and “I hope our bond continues to grow and we stay sisters for a lifetime, Agata.” Then you finish the prayer by snapping a small piece of the person’s cracker off, eat it, while placing three kisses on their cheeks. You have to go through the entire room and make sure you wish everyone happiness or good health because it is their custom. Then you sit at the table and eat 12 dishes of fish. There is a beat soup called Barszcz Soup that is a tradition that is to always be eaten every year. You place mushroom-like-perogies into your bowl then cover them with the beat soup. It isn’t the tastiest soup but it wasn’t that bad either. I finished my bowl but I didn’t lick it clean. The next 11 dishes consisted strictly of fish. It is known to give you bad luck if you don’t at least try every dish on the table. My host mother told me that if I at least try a raisin or bread from the dish than that counts. My host grandmother, Babcia Zenia, laughed when she watched me only eat a raisin from the first fish dish. She tried to feed me more, but I kept rejecting her offers. Personally, I don’t enjoy eating fish especially if it smells like fish.
Throughout the courses Ania and Monika would take turns playing the guitar while my family sang Polish Christmas songs. We sang “Silent Night” and “Bethlehem”. My host grandparents were shocked I could sing along in Polish, but they didn’t know I practiced the songs with Mama a few weeks before Christmas. It is their family tradition to sing carols throughout the night. It brings Christmas warmth to the house and into our hearts. My host grandfathers would pull out their magnifying glasses and belt the words out loud. My mama had a lovely voice singing the songs next to me. Even when Monika or Ania made a mistake with the notes on the guitar, my family just kept on singing until they repositioned their fingers.
After a few hours of singing and eating, my Uncle Piotrek became St. Nicholas. He placed a curly black wig on his head and handed out the Christmas gifts that were sitting under the Christmas tree. Everyone received at least three presents from someone but none of the gifts had names on them. Each present I received was anonymous because it was technically coming straight from St. Nicholas. I really enjoyed opening the presents with everyone. I gave my host parents; uncle and aunt; and each set of grandparents a Margate woven blanket that I designed and a picture of our “new” family in a picture frame. Each person seemed to be pleased with my gift. The most important gift that I received was a Lilou bracelet engraved with Stephanie Choduń on one side of the silver heart and A.E.D. on the other side of the heart. (A. E. D. stands for Agata, my sister, Ewa, my mom, and Darek, my dad.) It was a wonderful present that really means the world to me! I really feel accepted and part of their family. I am not just an exchange student staying with them temporarily, but rather another family member in the Choduń family. I don’t have to take off this bracelet either. It is now a part of me. I am now Stephanie Raquel Kneble Choduń.
After dinner and presents, Monika hooked up the laptop to the television screen. We were skyping with Ula on Christmas while she is in Ohio. Everyone was asking her questions and wishing her a happy holiday. I know how it feels to be away from your family on Christmas and I could tell she was sad. I know I would be completely homesick if I skyped my family while they are eating their Christmas dinner. As soon as Ula logged on though, she asked to see me. We have never met before, sadly, so it was our first time “meeting” each other. At the end of the conversation, the family sang “Cicha Noc” and she listened to us sing. I could see the tears running down her cheeks and I watched as the rest of the family became sad. Everyone misses Ula dearly and I know exactly how that feels to miss your family. I began thinking of my own family on this night and what I would have been doing if I was home with them. I would be making Christmas cookies with my mother in the kitchen with my dad watches us and my brother watches T.V. I hope to bring this tradition of St. Nicholas and singing Christmas carols home with me.
My parents and I were too tired to attend midnight mass so we decided to go home. It is a tradition to go to the church at midnight but the ceremony lasts about 2 hours. I was exhausted and stuffed with food to sit through two hours of church.
The next day I ate my family at my house, watched a movie with my cousins, and showed my family my photo album from home. They all liked seeing my baby pictures and parents. No one has really seen my home or family so it was a nice treat. My aunt and Babcia loved looking through my album. I tried my best to describe the people in Polish but Ania had to assist me on some words. It was nothing but relaxing and eating all day. Today is the day you can eat meat and drink alcohol. I also got to Skype with my family today. I watched them open gifts and eat Christmas breakfast together. My parents told me they missed me while my siblings enjoyed their presents. I missed being home with them, but there is so much to do in Poland that I am not that sad. There are many more Christmas celebrations to come in the future.
The last day of Christmas was just relaxing. We finished off the dishes of food from the past two nights and sat on the couch watching T.V. Some of the Christmas decorations were taken down and the house had to be cleaned again but not as much as we did before Christmas. It was a different kind of Christmas for me because I don’t have Christmas trees or 12 dishes of fish or a St. Nicholas to hand out presents. At home we just open gifts Christmas morning with everyone, eat breakfast together, and then leave to meet up with friends that night. It isn’t spent seeing my whole family or having a huge Christmas dinner. We celebrate the holidays a non-traditional way. I will bring some Polish traditions home with me.
Stephanie Raquel





































